The problem lies with the one who is giving more but receiving less. We consider this situation to be unhealthy or damaging. Continue this lopsided relationship and there will be a cost. Which do we really need - to give love or receive it? We resist the question b/c we want to say both. Yet Scripture seems to favor the imbalance. Not that we aspire to have our friend or spouse love us less, but that “in humility [we] consider others better than [our]selves” (Phil 2:3). When the kingdom of God is ruling our hearts, we aspire more to serve than be served, honor more than be honored, and love more than be loved. This doesn’t mean that we don’t care about being loved; it simply means that we always want to outdo others in love. -Ed Welch